Another Cycle

I found out recently that two of my hospice clients that were released from hospice, had returned and subsequently passed away. I talked about these two quite often, and if not in my blog, in my mind and heart.

I saw E. for almost two years, before they decided to release her from hospice. She is the one that scared me the most. It seems funny to be scared of a 90 year old woman confined to her bed, and her own head. She didn't talk, she couldn't move herself, and she barely acknowledged your existence, but when she did, it got right to my core, right to my fears.

The fear that I would be alone dying, with no family to take care of me. I don't know if that was E.'s case, but situation always seemed to allude to that. In scary movies, you don't have to actually see the scary part to be scared. You infer things, you guess, and you imagine. A lot of the time, your imagination is a lot worse than what actually happened, and I think this could be true of many of our fears. To be well taken care of in a good nursing home, such as the one that E. lived in, is nothing to fear... but we do none the less.

The second person, D. was returned back home when her family was again able to take care of her after a family set back, and she died at home with her son there. She was also slipping into her own mind, slowly and would have soon needed much of the care that E. needed... but D. gave me hope. She was in a nursing home for several months, but she always seemed to have a smile on her face no matter where she was. I did not fear going to help her, and I was glad to hear she died at home.

I also hear that they have finally found a replacement for me 6 months after I left. I hope she is ready for what she is about to experience, I know I wasn't. I am happy for the clients to finally have the benefit of massage therapy once again at their disposal. I know that it made a huge impact on many of the clients I worked with.

I somehow feel that it is finally coming to an end, my experience with this particular hospice. I felt a little guilty leaving, when I knew that they would have trouble finding a replacement in this small community. I don't regret leaving, my business is doing very well and my stress level is much less. However, it's hard to give up touching peoples lives in such a profound way.

Good luck to the next in this cycle.